Hello to my awesome readers! This month you're going to see a bunch of outfit posts from me. All the fashion editorials I've shot this month will be submitted to magazines for publication so I can't post any of those images until they're on newsstands. Now that that's out of the way, there has been something on my mind lately because cuffing season is finally over and a lot of my girl friends are single and ready to mingle...
In 1994, there was an episode of Friends where Joey Tribbiani called Ross Gellar "the mayor of the friend zone." The rest is history and a cultural phenomenon was born. At first it was funny. Then it just became toxic for men and women everywhere.
There is no such thing as the friend zone. Say it again for the people in the back. There is no such thing as the friend zone! It basically describes a nice guy who goes out of his way for a love interest, only to be deemed "just a friend." The friend zone gave guys an excuse to complain about how the women they were interested in wouldn't sleep with them despite all the nice things they did. Which is such bullshit.
Calling yourself a nice guy or being a nice guy doesn't guarantee that a woman will magically fall for or sleep with you. It's a self defense mechanism for guys who cannot handle rejection. It puts women in the wrong for not reciprocating his good deeds with sex. They call the women "ungrateful" or "thankless" or even worse things. What fascinates me is that no one tells these guys that your crush is not obligated to like you if you've done those things out of choice. You thought it would earn you brownie points or that you'd earned the right to claim that person, but nobody owes you anything. In reality, people do it for themselves. To expect anything in return further feeds one’s false sense of entitlement.
Ladies, if you hear a guy complaining he's been "friend zoned," call him out on his sexist bullshit. Guys, stop saying it. You sound pathetic and desperate and the complete opposite of a nice guy because you are basically saying you don't want to have any female friends. You are also making it clear to everyone that you don't understand how attraction works. It's really a non-issue.
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